Responsibility, Patience, and Managing

(begin rant)

Lately, it seems like nearly everything and everyone is trying my patience. Whether it's cleaning up messes caused by incompetence and/or laziness or trying to fix things that aren't working as expected, it makes life harder and more stressful than if things were just to run smoothly as they should. Of course, there will be times when you hit an unexpected bump in a smooth road. The problem comes when the bumps are created by others. I can't blame the copy machine for not working properly, but I can blame one of my TAs for being lazy and not doing their job properly leading to a mess that I have to clean up.

Now, don't get me wrong. I don't like micro-managing people. I'm fine with giving instructions on what I expect them to do and as long as they get the job done without causing any problems for me, I could care less about how they accomplished it. And therein lies the problem.

Maybe my expectations are too high. However I am dealing solely with adults here, and I don't feel like asking someone to follow instructions and be responsible is asking too much, especially if those instructions aren't particularly detailed. If it is your job to be a lab TA and help the lab students, you should not be leaving the students alone in the lab for half of the time period. That is what an irresponsible adult who is too lazy to do their job does. I feel like I shouldn't have to explain to an adult (who has been a student and taken labs) that being in the lab room is part of the job of a lab TA. And the students aren't much better. They are all adults as well and should be capable of being responsible for the lab policies that are handed out to them. It is not my job to tell you what day your lab is. I gave you a website with that information. Go there and figure it out yourself. This is not high school. I am not your mother. Learn how to take on some responsibility and independence and learn how to do things by yourself.

And the problem does not end with a job or school. Half of my housemates are incapable of taking some initiative and cleaning the house when it is needed. And when I ask them to, they are incompetent at cleaning. If everyone else sees the large brown dirt patch on the bottom of the shower, then it's probably not clean and don't be surprised when I ask you to clean it again.

It all boils down to taking some responsibility and initiative and doing things right the first time. Sure it might take longer, but it will save me and you the extra time and headaches needed to correct a problem that could easily have been avoided in the first place if you had just taken the time to do your job properly. I am a pretty patient person, but I must say that the one thing that tests my patience more than anything else is the incompetence of other people.

(/end rant)

Priorities and Importance

There's always talk of "getting your priorities straight" or giving to much importance to some minor happening. The problem with this is when people assume that everyone should more or less have the same priorities. Maybe I care too much about (or give too much importance to), say, my fantasy hockey team to the point where someone might think it's silly for me to get upset about losing. I mean, it's not the end of the world and there are other things far more important out there, right? Yes, that's right but at the same time, I don't have the same things to worry about as other people. Someone might say "Well my kids, significant other, family, etc are the most important things and are so important that something like a silly game should hardly matter. Maybe I'll get upset, but I know (inset person/people) will cheer me up and remind me how insignificant it is." This is all fine and dandy if you have those people in your life. But what happens when you don't? What if you don't have a significant other or kids or are not close to your family? Even if those things would be your top priorities, if they are not in your life, then they won't occur on your current priority list. So when you lose your silly game, you care more about it and give more importance to it because you don't currently have much that is more important.

Part of "growing up" is adding to your life, and what you add is often quite important, such as a career or kids. Another part is learning how to prioritize things and figure out what is most important. You'll often hear people say how having kids had a major change on their outlook in life or made them more responsible. This is, at least in part, just figuring out how to organize their priorities as well as having a major change in their life. The small things lose importance because they now have bigger things to care about and make important.

The point is that even if someone seems immature or silly for giving too much importance or too high of a priority to something, doesn't necessarily mean that they need to "grow up" or get their priorities straight. It might just be that the most important things in your life happen to be missing from theirs.

New Direction

I don't really like the original format that I set up since there isn't necessarily any specific reason or cause for my thoughts. So for now, I think that I will just leave it free-form.